Devotee:
Gurudev, I wanted to discuss a specific matter with you today. Ma Sharada once said, "I am the mother of the righteous, and I am the mother of the unrighteous." Many people visit your Santikunj, and you guide them on what to do and what not to do. However, it's natural that not everyone follows your instructions perfectly; sometimes, they act out of ignorance.
Devotee:
Regarding this, I noticed something in a video posted yesterday. One of your female disciples was sitting next to you, and her posture was quite inappropriate for the setting. As the host, I tried to tell her several times to sit properly or stay out of the frame because many people watch these videos with you. There are no restrictions on who can sit there, but one must maintain a certain decorum. I tried, but for some reason, she didn't listen. Eventually, you had to tell her to sit up straight and behave.
Devotee:
Because viewers don't know the background of what was happening behind the scenes, there have been various unfortunate comments online. We would like you to shed some light on this matter yourself.
Guru Shyama Khyapa:
Look, people sit at their keyboards and just start writing. They don't see what's really happening, and they don't feel the need to. They think that because I corrected her, I've done something terribly wrong.
Guru Shyama Khyapa:
The truth is, I have told that girl many times that this is an open, public space and she shouldn't behave that way. I appreciate her devotion, but she should express it appropriately—either inside or elsewhere—not in a way that disrupts the setting. She simply wouldn't listen.
Guru Shyama Khyapa:
In fact, I had banned her from coming here for six months once before because of her behavior. During the Mahalaya night, when we were performing the Mora Puja and Chita Puja (rituals at the cremation ground), I specifically told her not to come because it isn't a place for women during such intense rituals. She ignored me, went there, and caused such a disturbance—you can't even imagine.
Guru Shyama Khyapa:
Those who are writing comments only see one side of the story. You should see the other side. Before you write, you should ask me what happened. I was doing my job correctly. If it had been a man behaving like that, I would have kicked him out. Because she is a woman, I simply told her to move, yet she still didn't learn.
Guru Shyama Khyapa:
So, I am banning her from Santikunj forever. Even if I were to allow her back, my other disciples wouldn't let her in. You can write whatever you want, but you've turned this girl's luck into misfortune. I have the right to discipline my disciples. Who are you to question that? You saw something you thought was wrong, but did you ask for the context? My phone number is available; you should have called and asked why I did what I did before writing your comments. Now, because of your interference, I am renouncing her as a disciple. That is my final word.
Devotee:
Friends, many of you asked Gurudev about this out of curiosity, but some of you went as far as saying, "Gurudev, you didn't do the right thing."
Devotee:
I believe there is a contradiction there. If you address him as "Gurudev," you do not have the standing or the right to judge whether his actions are "right" or "wrong." We may have questions, and we can ask them—Gurudev has always provided answers—but we should not cross that line into judging him. People from all over the world watch these videos and react, and you have every right to seek information, but please do not overstep.
Devotee:
Everyone wants to receive Gurudev's grace, but a disciple's behavior must not disrupt his spiritual practice (Sadhana).
Guru Shyama Khyapa:
Everyone tried to stop her—the organizers, Pradip-da, everyone. I warned her repeatedly, yet she sat there in that manner. No sensible woman would behave like that in such a setting. I think she has lost her mind. As I said, I took her back once after a six-month ban because she pleaded, but this time, my other disciples are furious. They've told me they won't let her in because they won't tolerate any disrespect toward me.
Devotee:
To give you more context on what Gurudev mentioned earlier: during our annual ritual at the Rajpur cremation ground, Gurudev performs a ritual over a corpse. He strictly forbids women from being there because it is a sensitive environment—a place of spirits and intense energy—especially deep at night. Despite repeated warnings, she showed up, which could have been harmful to her and to the ritual itself.
Guru Shyama Khyapa:
And you know what happened? She actually became very ill afterward. Even then, I had to be the one to save her because the doctors couldn't help. I had told her, "Don't go to the cremation ground at midnight; stay here," but she ignored me and caused chaos. People don't see these things; they just see a five-second clip and judge. If you're going to comment on someone, at least verify the facts first.
Devotee:
If you have any further questions, please feel free to ask them respectfully. Gurudev is always open to answering your queries. However, we request that you refrain from making judgmental comments in the future. We want everyone to benefit from Gurudev's teachings without such distractions.
Devotee:
We will be back later today to discuss the Nabami Puja. For now, we conclude. Pronam, Gurudev.
Guru Shyama Khyapa:
Bless you.